Real Talk · A psychologist-led community with Dr. Kristine DanbackGet better at thinking when relationships make it hardest to think.
Real Talk is a private, screened community built around one practice: understanding what is actually happening in you, in them, and between you.
Within seconds, your mind
has created a story.
Most relationship problems do not happen because we lack information. They happen when something emotionally important is happening and our ability to think clearly about it begins to collapse.
Your partner gets quiet. Your mother makes a comment. Your ex sends a text. Your boss changes tone. Your adult child does not call.
He's pulling away. She's criticizing me. He's trying to manipulate me. I did something wrong. I need to fix this.
Maybe you're right. But maybe you're not.
The capacity to slow that process down, to become curious about what is happening in your own mind while remaining curious about what may be happening in someone else's, is called mentalization, or reflective functioning. And it can profoundly change the way you relate.
Bring it in.
Real Talk is a supportive, healing community built around practicing that capacity in real life, while life is actually happening. Someone doesn't text you back? Bring it in. Your ex sends an infuriating email? Bring it in. You're convinced your boss is narcissistic? Let's think about it.
Instead of "Tell me what I should do," we start asking:
- What actually happened?
- What do you know?
- What are you assuming?
- What did you feel?
- What story did your mind create?
- What else could be true?
- And now, what do I choose?
That is the practice, along with sharing our own stories, offering empathy and knowledge.
"The goal isn't to become better at analyzing everyone around you. It's to become harder to confuse, and better able to trust your own mind without assuming that everything your mind tells you is necessarily true."
Where Real Talk lives.
The Community
Ongoing conversation in a private, screened space, with our therapists and coaches present Monday to Friday. Real relationships with women learning to ask better questions of themselves and one another.
Reality Share
A weekly live gathering with Dr. Danback on Monday evenings. What's taking up space? What's real? What needs your attention this week? Answer aloud or in the chat.
Mentalization Deep Dive
Once a month, a live psychotherapy group with Dr. Danback. Slow down. Feel it. Think about it. Understand what's happening in you, in the other person, and between you.
Two ways to belong.
Real Talk
- Private, screened Real Talk community
- Our therapists and coaches present Monday to Friday
- Weekly live Reality Share with Dr. Danback
- Ongoing conversation with women doing the same work
Real Talk + Mentalization Deep Dive
- Everything in Real Talk
- Monthly Wednesday evening Deep Dive psychotherapy group with Dr. Danback
- Limited to 15 women
- Full Resource Room access
- Guest speakers and extra live sessions
The Mentalization Deep Dive is offered together with Real Talk. Live sessions with Dr. Danback are psychotherapy and may be eligible for out-of-network reimbursement for members in New York, Connecticut, and PSYPACT states. Ask us which parts of your membership qualify for a superbill.
Every member is welcomed personally.
New to Dr. Danback
Membership begins with a one-time screening session with Dr. Danback ($355). It is a mutual fit check, so you know Real Talk is right for you and the community stays safe for everyone in it.
Already working with our team
Current and former clients of Dr. Danback can join directly. Reach out and we will send your personal invitation.
Real Talk is a community for growth and reflection. If you are in crisis, call or text 988, or call 911 in an emergency.
Insight Restores Choice.
Relationships become less confusing when you become better at thinking about minds, including your own. Real Talk is where we practice.
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