Relationships & Personal Development


In our family, friends, and love relationships, we often can do some of the basic maintenance and repairs ourselves. Other times, couples therapy (or therapy with a parent or a child) needs the help of a licensed professional. All couples therapy tends to involve the following general elements:

  • 1. A focus on a specific problem (i.e., sexual difficulties, Internet addiction, intimacy, jealousy).
  • 2. Active participation on the part of the therapist in treating the relationship itself rather than each individual separately.
  • 3. Solution-focused, change-oriented interventions early on in treatment.
  • 4. A clear establishment of treatment objectives.

Personal Growth and Development

Fear is often the excuse for not doing the work involved to learn deep love for ourselves and others. We are all afraid. To love and develop ourselves truly takes courage to manage our own fears. What we fear can strengthen, can heal.


Personal Growth and development entail enhancing various aspects such as the way you feel about yourself, how effective your behavior is, and the skills you already have that can be built upon. Self-knowledge, modifying behaviors, asserting yourself, acceptance, planning, and courage are only a few aspects focused on in treatment. An awareness of how your history, biology, and emotions came together, creating who you are, and regulating your emotions is the goal to have a more fulfilling life, work, and love.

Even at our best, and with outside support, events and life's transitions can make you feel as if you do not have any interest in the activities and the people that you love. Hopelessness takes over the joy in our lives; this can occur when we are triggered by outside stressful events such as relationships, marriage, children, divorce, an illness, an athletic injury, or the loss of a job or loved one. We may lose our passion or doubt we ever had a purpose.

Random Thoughts Psychotherapy P.C.
Random Thoughts Psychotherapy P.C.

" Pursue some path, however narrow and crooked, in which you can walk with love and reverence."
Henry David Thoreau

Random Thoughts Psychotherapy P.C.

Parenting Coordination / Co-parenting

This small group of parents is not able to settle their child-related disputes in custody mediation, through lawyer-assisted negotiations, or on their own. They turn to litigation in the years following separation and divorce to settle these disputes and utilize disproportionate resources and time of the courts. They are more likely to have significant psychological problems which may interfere with their parenting and more often expose their children to intense conflict and intimate partner violence.

Parenting Coordination is a non-adversarial dispute resolution process that is court-ordered or agreed upon by divorced and separated parents who have an ongoing pattern of high conflict and/or litigation about their children. The underlying goal of the Parenting Coordination intervention is a continuous focus on children's best interests by the Parenting Coordinator (PC) in working with high-conflict parents and in decision-making.

Parenting Coordination is designed to help parents implement and comply with court orders or parenting plans, to make timely decisions in a manner consistent with children's developmental and psychological needs, reduce the amount of damaging conflict between caretaking adults to which children are exposed, and to diminish the pattern of unnecessary re-litigation about child­ related issues.