Let's Confront Reality Together. Psychological therapy, divorce coaching, executive consultation, and retreats for adults across New York and Connecticut.
You deserve to be deeply understood
and invested in.
Especially when your own reality and circumstances have become difficult to trust.
Psychological abuse, coercive control, betrayal, divorce, difficult family dynamics, and trauma can disorient even the most intelligent and accomplished people.
I should have known better.
Why can't I make sense of this?
Maybe I really am the problem.
I know that disorientation personally.
There was a time when I could feel that something was profoundly wrong, but I did not yet have the language to understand it, or explain it without becoming overwhelmed. I needed someone who could see the whole psychological picture and help me make sense of what I was living. Twenty years ago, I did not have language for those dynamics, and the public conversation around them was far less developed.
That experience helped shape Random Thoughts.
Our services are the vehicles, not the mission. The mission is helping you understand yourself, the people around you, and the dynamics shaping your life.
What Remains Hidden Shapes What Is Lived.
Let's Confront Reality Together.
Insight Restores Choice.
What you are experiencing
rarely exists in isolation.
Your history, relationships, defenses, fears, and the psychology of the people around you all shape what is happening now.
We look beneath the immediate problem and help you understand the dynamics at work: within you, within others, and between you.
We stay curious about minds. What you know, what you assume, what another person may be experiencing, and what may still be outside awareness.
Then we build the support around what you actually need.
Where we meet you
Narcissistic & Psychologically Confusing Relationships
Understanding the dynamics of narcissistic, emotionally limited, and psychologically confusing relationships and family systems.
Trauma & Betrayal
Making sense of what happened, and of the disorientation, mistrust, and patterns that can remain afterward.
Divorce, Coercive Control & Complex Family Dynamics
Divorce coaching, mediation, collaborative divorce, and co-parenting support for high-conflict situations, when psychological, relational, financial, and legal realities become intertwined.
Relationships, Identity & Change
Psychotherapy for anxiety, relationships, parenting, life transitions, and the patterns that keep repeating even when you understand them intellectually.
One person. More than one kind of support.
Complex lives rarely fit neatly into one box. We look at the whole picture and build support around what you actually need: psychotherapy, divorce coaching, consultation, education, and community.
Start Here
Meet with our Director of Intake & Growth. Tell us what is happening, what you have tried, and what you need help understanding.
We Think Together
Your situation is reviewed with Dr. Danback to determine the right clinical and practical support, and the right person to provide it.
Begin the Work
You begin with your clinician or coach. Dr. Danback remains involved in the clinical thinking behind the practice.
Dr. Kristine Danback, PhD
Most of us come to therapy not because something broke, but because something has been quietly wrong for a long time.
My own experience with narcissistic abuse taught me how profoundly disorienting relationships can become, and how different it feels when someone can finally help you put language to what you are living. That experience continues to shape how I practice and how I built Random Thoughts.
- Ph.D. in Clinical Psychology, Derner Institute at Adelphi University
- 20 years of clinical experience; licensed in New York and Connecticut
- Teaches, publishes, and presents on trauma and narcissistic abuse
- A survivor of narcissistic abuse, so this work is understood from both sides of the room
As featured onInfluential Women
Different disciplines.
A shared way of thinking.
Our therapists, divorce coaches, executive coaches and specialists bring different expertise to the room. What connects the work is a commitment to looking beneath the obvious, understanding not only what someone is doing, but what may be driving it. We think together.
RESTORE
A three-month psychoanalytically informed program for women who may be in or out of the relationship, but recognize that the relationship is not entirely out of them. Through live work with Dr. Danback, guided seminars, individual support, and a community of women who understand the terrain, Restore helps you examine the unconscious patterns and relational dynamics that remain, and begin living differently.
Explore RESTOREWhat the work can change
What Remains Hidden Shapes What Is Lived.
The dark center of our poppy represents the realities we would rather not see: the parts of ourselves, our relationships, and other people that can be difficult to bear.
The translucent petals represent what becomes possible when we can face what is there: awareness, insight, choice, growth.
The bud represents potential. Not simply who you have been, but who you are still becoming.
Let's Confront Reality Together.
Insight Restores Choice.
Start with a conversation.
You do not need to know whether you need psychotherapy, divorce coaching, consultation, RESTORE, or something else. Tell us what is happening. We will help you think about what comes next.
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